The radio world is all abuzz with Taylor Swift’s new single ‘Look what you made me do’. From words of praise to statements of anger- the song is getting a lot of attention. I usually don’t care about the celebrity gossip, but I thought this whole idea of ‘Has Taylor Swift gone crazy?’ was really interesting. I hope she has gone crazy in a good way. I hope that she is being herself without letting others influence her. But most important I hope that she is embracing who she is as a whole person-crazy and all. Because we are all a little crazy. Here are some reasons why you need to embrace your special crazy.
#4 If your not hurting yourself or anyone else- just give in.
This generation is way more accepting of differences and the ‘geeky’ things that people are into. So as long as you’re not harming yourself or anyone else- let yourself dress up like superheroes, or know all the Spice Girls dance routines, or collect Shopkins, or pretend you’re in a movie montage when you are listening to music. If you accept this part of you, others are way more likely to as well.
#3 No one really feels like they fit in.
Yup- sorry to everyone who is pretending. But rarely do we feel like we truly fit into a social group fully for a long period of time. There is always the thought of ‘if they knew I do/did that- they wouldn’t like me anymore’ or ‘if someone shows up they like more, I’m out of the group for sure’. So put that locus of control back into yourself- because you can only control yourself. And if you like you, others will too.
#2 Go with your gut.
Have you ever been in a situation in which the only reason you have a certain friend/friend group is because you don’t want to be alone? Where you will even go against what your gut tells you is right because you want to avoid this loneliness. If for any reason at all you feel that your friends are asking you to go against your moral code, it is better to be alone for a little bit. I promise you- you will find other friends that don’t make you feel like that. Or you can get a pet. Dogs are unconditional positive regard in a fun furry package. You control your life and you decide who gets to be in it.
#1 Your Special Crazy is unique.
If we were all the same it would be boring. Have you ever attended a party where everyone was ‘really cool’ but they had nothing passionate or intriguing to say? The things that make us seem crazy are also the things that drive us, that make us passionate and that make us amazing. Don’t soften the fury and power of that! Strive to be the best at the aspect that you think makes you weird or crazy. I guarantee you that there are others out there with your same passion and together you could make incredible things happen.
My Challenge to you: Find your crazy and make it passion. Turn this aspect about yourself that you are embarrassed about into a strength and use it for good. And remember- you are incredible. Don’t let anyone or anything convince you otherwise.
Happy crazy embracing friends!
– Jessie the Therapist