8 foolproof ways to not raise an a**hole

We have all met that one kid that we think to ourselves, “Wow, that kid is going to grow up to be an a**hole.” And personally I don’t want that to be my kid. So based on the characteristics of an entitled self absorbed adult person- here is specific parenting tips to start now to avoid raising an a**hole adult.

-Raise an adult. It is hard for us to see the forest for the trees at times, but you are really raising children to be adults. They need to learn how the world works and how to be productive. Natural consequences are key here because you are not always going to be there to keep them in check.

-Be considerate. Kids model us and we want to show them respect so that they learn to show others respect. This also includes being thankful.

-No excuses. Maybe the biggest lesson I have learned as an adult is that there is no excuses. You either did something or you didn’t. Be straightforward.

-Do what you say. This shows consistency, predictability, and holding to agreements.

-Give them responsibility. Helps build self esteem, respect for others (and their things), and work ethic. Adulting is all responsibilities- so help them develop these skills now so that they can hit the ground running.

-Everything is a learning experience. Mistakes are just that, mistakes. They are the best way we learn, so there is no need to berate and belittle someone who has made a mistake.

-Set limits. Everyone loves limits! They make our world predictable- which is comforting. We create routines around this, which can assist in goal setting.

-Mellow out. Every kid goes through phases (maybe a few) were they are complete turds. Continue to hold them to their consequences and all the points above this one. But do realize that they are a good kid learning about how to handle life.

My Challenge to you: Assess these points and set some parenting goals this week. We all need reminders on things we can improve upon as a parent. For me, it is mellowing out because I can be an anxious mess. 😉 Remember: NO ONE IS PERFECT! If you are trying your best and keeping your kids in mind- you are a great parent. Keep doing good work. <3

Happy a**hole proofing friends!

– Jessie the Therapist

Jessie Shepherd is a Mental Health Counselor and owner of Blue Clover Therapy in Utah. She has a Masters Degree in Mental Health Counseling from the University of Phoenix and a Bachelors degree in Psychology from the University of Utah. Her focus is treating trauma, eating disorders and adjustment issues in adults, adolescents, children and their families. She utilizes Dialectic Behavioral Therapy (DBT), Play Therapy, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) and Neurological Feedback.

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